I haven't seen anyone post a blog in awhile or comment on anything. Hope everyone is doing ok!
So, Brittany really wants to have a baby. I wouldn't mind having a baby, but I want to enjoy the beginning years of my marriage before we have a baby. Atleast 1-2 years, to go on vacations together, once we both hit 21, go to bars and drink and have fun. I want to be able to buy video games and movies for awhile.
That all may sound selfish, but I'm not ready to turn those things in. Of course, I know you can get a babysitter, but I always get sudden urges to just leave and go somewhere. We get bored and we can just leave and do whatever we please.
This is definitely not a bash on anyone who has a baby young, I just don't think I am ready for it yet. Like I said before, I can't wait to be a daddy, but I want to enjoy my marriage with my wife, just the two of us for awhile.
I'd love some opinions on it. Especially from Mavrek/Tiff vs everyone else. That would give great perspectives.
Am I being too selfish or do you think I'm wise in waiting to enjoy the things I want to enjoy? Let me know!
-Matt-
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Hey Matt.
Havn't done a blog in a while, just 'coz I havn't really had much to say. I've got some videos planned though which I hope to do this weekend.
As for babies, I think you should stress how you feel to Brittany. I agree with what you feel though, you should definately enjoy time together as a married couple and then think about having a family once you're ready.
I've been busy, haha. I keep meaning to make a vid, but end up getting sidetracked.
I'm kind of odd about children. If I were financially stable, and didn't need to ruin someone else's life for nine months, I would already have a kid, heh. I've wanted to be a father since I was 15. See, told you. Odd, haha.
But I don't think it's selfish to want to just enjoy being married for a while before having a kid. It's a huge deal, and if you don't think you're ready for it yet, or simply don't want to have one yet, that probably means you shouldn't, haha.
Ok I am so sorry I haven't check the blogs in so long! Expecially this one! I can totally see both sides.
I think you should wait a year. Now don't get me wrong being a parent is wonderful in fact I Love It! I love my princess. But first things first. One you already are kinda against it and if you are wanting to have a baby you should be 100 % ready (wanting it).
you two can have babies any time. Your married. Take a year as newlyweds and do the stuff you all want to get done before children. Any plans such as bars, drinking alot and renting lots of movies and staying up all night, going on dates, traveling the world, big vacations, just going to a local store..... When you have a baby your kinda stuck. Actually its not that big of deal because you can find a baby sitter. But I think taking a year or two to find yourselfs and be a new couple and do new things would be best. That way when you have your first baby you can buckle down and have family time and be a daddy/mommy. And be prepared for everything. Plus you wont have NE regrets because you would have had time to do the fun stuff.
But if you choose to have a baby thats awesome too! Because babies end up being the love of your life. You will change your schedule but you learn to cope. Plus you get to be Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, you get to read storys and buy toys. But it is a bit of a change because when you go somewhere...so does baby. You gotto be prepared 24/7. But really I don't think there are any negitives about babies. Its a peice of cake and it comes natural.
You will make the right decision in the end. And honestly there is no wrong answer because both ways are good. :) Let us know what you choose!!
Mavrek says:
He hates being so busy and that you all don't hear from him! He says he will comment when he gets a chance! He wants to have time to sit down and type it out!! okies:)
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